As any bride will tell you, wedding festivities and the wedding day come with lots of joy (but also lots of paperwork). Contracts to review, guest lists to finalize and vows to write – but don’t forget about the thank you notes!
As Colin Cowie points out in his book, For The Bride, “Your wedding guests are your nearest and dearest friends and relatives-the most important people in the world to you as a couple. You’ve chosen them above everyone else to share one of the most special days of your life. Some may have taken time off of work and traveled to be with you on top of putting time and thought into selecting a gift for you. Letting your guests know how much you appreciate all that they have done to share in your special day takes just a few moments and means so much.”
So, grab your pen and get started! There are lots of fun options…
And you can even match your wedding theme or colors…
Finally, 5 quick pointers to make the notes painless (c/o tresugar.com)…
- 1) Divide the work. Don’t let the task fall solely on one person. Split up the list or make it fun – bang them out over a long Sunday breakfast together one morning or sit in the sun writing them while you work on your tan.
- 2) Say something specific. Describe the gift and add a bit of flair, such as “we’ll be sure to raise a toast to you with the beautiful glasses.” If it’s a gift card or money, say what you might spend it on.
- 3) But don’t lie. Don’t say you love the gift if you don’t like it. Instead, focus on its unique attributes, the sentiment behind it, or something else entirely . . .
- 4) Go beyond the gift. This is your chance to tell the givers how much you appreciate their being a part of your celebration.
- 5) Send it ASAP. Experts disagree on the amount of time couples have to write thank-you notes, though within three months of getting a gift is a good rule of thumb. I say, do it as soon as possible, at least within a month. Your gracious guests won’t be left wondering if the gift arrived OK and doing the notes in smaller batches will save you some writer’s cramp.
So, go on and make Emily Post proud, I promise you won’t regret it!
Any questions re: thank you note etiquette? – feel free to ask